World Mental Health Day 2019, you are never alone ๐ŸŒ๐Ÿ’—

Hey lovelies ๐Ÿ’•,

Today is a very important day in the world ๐ŸŒ. October the 10th is World Mental Health Day. I write about this every year as I find it so important. You can find my post of 2017 here and my post of 2018 here. I never want to write exactly the same every year because otherwise it would be borring haha. I suffer from a mental illness which is anxiety. They say 1 out of 5 people suffer from a mental illness in their lives at one point. Suicide rates are really high and statistics have shown that there are more men who die by suicide than women. This is really shocking to know. I also read it in this article of BBC news. Today I’m going to talk about mental health stigma, anxiety and mental health related to gender.

To begin with, we all have mental and physical health. Our brains work together with our whole body. Some ignorant people still forget that. When I feel anxious I begin to have negative thoughts about life and death. I feel like I can’t move on in life. Right now, I’m again struggling with my mental health. I also think it’s because of the change from Summer to the Winter months. I never deal well with having less sunshine and daylight ๐Ÿ˜ญ. I can’t understand why people don’t understand that our body and mine are one and that everything is connected. So, when I begin to have unrealistic thoughts and think about all the bad things which can happen if I do a certain thing then I already begin to feel anxious. This means that I begin to feel nauseous, dizzy, feel my heart beating really fast, feel my breath becoming faster and just feel so bad. This eventually can get worse which can result in having a panic attack, totally feeling out of control and in my case also having to vomit. What I fear the most is going through that again and it just feels like I’m going to die.

We are all living in the 21th century. It’s 2019 and there are still people who feel like it’s okay to judge someone who is struggling with their mental health. I really can’t understand that. How can that be possible?! It makes me sad but most of all it makes me so angry ๐Ÿ˜ก. Life is though for everyone of us. We all deal with our own problems and struggles in life. I really do believe life is even thougher for someone going with a mental illness. The mind plays with us which makes it dangerous. How can someone say to one who is dealing with an eating disorder that they just have to eat a bit more or eat less? Why do people say to someone who is going through anxiety to just be happy and stop worrying? How they hell can people say to just go out of bed when someone is struggling with a severe depression? YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT ๐Ÿ™„. Some people don’t know what it’s like to go through a mental illness because they have never gone through it but there are also some other people who just want to hurt others with their hurtful comments.

I just had to say this because I’m done with these comments. I’m done hearing from a “friend” say to me that I don’t try hard enough to get a job and move on in life. I’m done with hearing I’m lazy because I sleep a lot. I’m done hearing to snap out of it because I just can’t. Having a mental illness is a complex and difficult think to have and for others to understand. I don’t even understand my brain so how can someone help me when I can’t explain it either. If I could snap out of it all then I would already have done it. Give me that magic bottle of that witch ๐Ÿง™โ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿ”ฎ and I will drink it all. WHOEHOEEE NO ANXIETY ANYMORE I’M SO HAPPY. Well, unfortunately it doesn’t work that way. I really wish it would be that simple. I’m not going to therapy and still don’t know if I will go one day. I already said a few posts ago that I went to a woman who wasn’t a real psychologist a few years ago and had to vomit every time I had to go. I told it to her and she said it could be that I just don’t want to let myself seen. It’s really true. I hide myself all the time. I always avoid everything I fear and everything what makes me uncomfortable such as going to the dentist and other social situations. I also don’t know if therapy would really work for me. I don’t know if I will ever be free of anxiety. If I talk about anxiety, I get anxious. For me, what would be helpful is talking about the things I struggle with while taking action. Solving problems and thoughtful thinking.

Therapy isn’t for everyone as well as medication isn’t good for everyone. Natural medication doesn’t help my anxiety as I have tried lots of stuff such as St. John’s Wort and Valerian Root. I also took for two years a low dose of antidepressants just 20mg and it didn’t work as I think it was too less. What works for me is an anti anxiety medication such as Valium or Bromazepam. I only take this when I feel high anxiety or when I’m close to a panic attack. I know it isn’t good to take it often but sometimes you just need it. Taking medication for a physical health illness is okay so why would it be shameful to take something for our mental illness? Our mental health is as important as our physical health.

What for me also helps in dealing with anxiety is doing the things which makes me happy to be alive such as my passions. I love loads of things. As Taylor Swift says, we are the things we love ๐Ÿ’—. I love writing, reading good books ๐Ÿ“š, blogging (of course lol!), singing ๐ŸŽถ, surfing ๐Ÿ„โ€โ™€๏ธ, listening to music, swimming in the sea, having fun with my friends and family, photography and travelling. What I also love is following people like on this blog or on Instagram who make me feel good about myself and who inspire me. I love to follow artists such as Ariana Grande, Julia Michaels, Talor Swift, Duncan Laurence, Aitana, Alfred Garcรญa, Rosalรญa, Amaia, Sofia Ellar, Alvaro Soler, Ed Sheeran, Passenger and many more who make me happy and who align with my being โœจ. I also love Yoga Girl her postcasts so much and everything she does for this world. She’s my biggest inspiration in life ๐Ÿ˜. I really am so happy to have these people in my life as they make me so happy. I wish to meet them all (I met some of them) and enjoy their concerts live.

I really do believe that having a community such as the blogging community, Yoga Girl community or pen pal community makes our life better. Being surrounded by people who make us feel good about ourselves is so important as it can make us feel less alone. It makes us feel that we belong somewhere and that everything we feel is real and valid ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ’—. I love to be honest, vulnerable and sensitive. I really do believe that the only way we can heal our hearts is with opening our hearts and share all the ugly and beautiful things in life. We heal the world with healing ourselves first. All my friends in real life or online, my family or the people I follow on social media are honest about themselves. I only crave real connections in life. I’m done with all those fake people with their fake bodies and lives. That only makes me feel worse especially when I feel anxious.

What I would like to see in the upcoming year and all the years which have to come is that we all can talk openly about our mental health and mental illnesses. I would like people to be more compassionate and show empathy. We need that in order to speak up. When you see someone struggling, be there for that person. Sometimes we need advice but sometimes all we need is someone who says that they will be there for us and give us a hug. It’s the little things which count. I also would like that society treats women and men equally in this subject of mental health. Men are not less a man because they show their emotions or because they have to cry. Women are not crazy for showing their emotions or for being more emotional. We all show our emotions in our own ways and are equal. Hopefully then the rates of suicide will be less.

I also do believe we all need the help we deserve. Going through a mental illness can happen to anyone. It doesn’t matter how old you are, what your nationality is or what gender you have. It can effect anyone of us at any moment in our lives. There needs to be better treatment available which makes asking for helping easier. The waiting lists has to change, people need to get good help after being in crisis, and just a lot of other things need to change in this system so that it can be available for everyone. People with a low income or those who are unemployed also have to get the help they need. It breaks my heart to see how in some countries there are people struggling with their mental health with no help at all ๐Ÿ’”๐Ÿ˜ข.

Always remember that you are loved and that you are not alone in this. Every day is world mental health day. Let’s stay together to end this taboo of mental health stigma. We arenโ€™t crazy in our minds. We are sick. We all need help, support and compassion. To raise awareness about world mental health day you can donate money to a mental health organization, you can draw a circle on your hand with the hastag #iamwhole or wear something yellow with the hastag #helloyellow and post it on social media. Let’s do this all together ๐Ÿ’ชโค๏ธ

Thank you all for reading this important blog post. Thank you for always being there for me like I will always be there for you all too. We are all in this together. Which mental illness do you suffer from? What helps you to feel better? What do you think of the mental health stigma? What do you think has to improve in the mental health system? Let me know lovelies. I will speak to you all in my next blog post.

I love you all so much ๐Ÿ’•,

xoxo Christina


23 thoughts on “World Mental Health Day 2019, you are never alone ๐ŸŒ๐Ÿ’—

  1. I battle anxiety and depression, but anxiety affects me the most. Most days I can push through and hide the panic I feel inside, but other days are just so hard. My anxiety makes it hard to even go to the doctor regularly for check-ups. The idea of going to therapy makes my heart race so fast it hurts. So I find other ways to cope. I eventually push past the emotions enough to get to my checkups but never in a timely matter, lol.

    Itโ€™s unfortunate that Iโ€™m todayโ€™s day and age thereโ€™s still so much stigma. But I can also understand it. Itโ€™s hard for people to grasp it if they havenโ€™t experienced it. I even have to catch myself from time to time, reminding myself that mental illness affects everyone differently.

    It doesnโ€™t surprise me that suicide rates are higher with men, though. Thereโ€™s such a mentality that men are supposed to be tough, not emotional, etc. If only they were allowed to express their emotions more freely, perhaps they would not have to suffer in silence and feel as though they have no other option.

    Thank you for starting this conversation! Itโ€™s very freeing to feel as though there are safe places to talk openly about our struggles.

    Much love to you, my friend. ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ

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    1. Thank you so much for your comment ๐Ÿ’• Thank you for opening up. I suffer from anxiety as you know. I can understand you so well. I often shut down and paralize. I don’t face my fears which I know isn’t good but my anxiety gets in the way. It’s so hard ๐Ÿ˜ข. The same goes with me when I think of therapy. Maybe it would do me good but in the past I went to some talks and got nauseous all the time. I’m proud of you for going to do your checkups. You are doing amazing ๐Ÿ’–.

      It’s really sad that there’s still a stigma about mental health illnesses. You are right. I find it also difficult to understand my own mind so to try to explain it to someone is even harder. You are so right. We have to be allowed to show our emotions, women and men. I wish this will change in the future.

      Sorry for my late reply. I’m just taking time in to writing a good comment. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. This community is just the best.

      Love you my friend ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–

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      1. Check-ups are definitely hard sometimes. Like I just found out my doctor quit and no one else takes my insurance at the office so I have to start from scratch finding a new doctor. ๐Ÿ˜ญ
        So Iโ€™ve been dragging my feet. I did finally get the courage to call for a provider list. One step closer, I guess.

        You hang in there. Iโ€™ve got your back. Youโ€™re not alone in your struggles.

        Much love to you, sweet friend! ๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™

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  2. As someone who’s battled clinical depression for the last 9 years, I’ve reached the point where I’ve given up trying to convince some people that depression is a real illness.

    I’ve found most people with that attitude to be totally closed minded on the matter.

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    1. Thank you so much for reading. I can understand you so well. I also get tired when someone says to just snap out of anxiety. You are right. I prefer to surround myself with people with an open mind.

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  3. What an insightful post! Even for people who arenโ€™t struggling right now or who arenโ€™t aware of what its like to face a mental illness this is really helpful to help understand what its like for others.
    Compassion is so important in dealing with our loved ones who have mental illnesses and this post was full of that โค

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    1. Thank you so much lovely for your kind words! ๐Ÿ’– I’m happy you liked it. I hope others will feel less alone while reading this. Yes compassion and empathy is everything. I wish there was more of that in this world.

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    1. I’m so glad you liked my post Beckie ๐Ÿ’–. I also find it important that we all share our stories and raise awareness. I also think the mental health system has to change as that’s the only way we can all get the help we deserve. Sending you all my love ๐Ÿ’–

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      1. I couldn’t agreewith you more! That’s one of the reasons why I run my series “Working on Us” in order for other bloggers to share their experiences and break the stigma surroundin all aspects of mental health illnesses/disorders.
        If we each do our part, it is bound to help others. ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ’š

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  4. I have a severe case of bipolar 1, I’ve had 3 different psychotic episodes. I was first diagnosed in 2010 when I had my first psychosis because an anti-depressant made me manic and then in manifested into a full blown psychotic episode. I’m not really sure what makes me happy. It’s been so long since I was happy. I know that working out really does make me feel better. Blogging really helps me too. I use my blog as an online journal and I’m sure people could careless what is going on in my head but it still makes me feel good to write down my thoughts and have some people comment or like what I write. I use to self medicate with marijuana… I remember that making me happy. Or masking my pain one. I only have one friend, and I’ve been single most of my life. I don’t really do anything that I enjoy.. I really don’t know what I enjoy or what makes me happy. I use to like talking and meeting new people.. but now I have social anxiety and I am socially awkward. My life has completely went to hell since 2010. I did manage to graduate college but that is my only accomplishment. I don’t know how I feel about stigma. I would like to be able to talk about my mental illness more openly so people could understand me.. especially at work. I wish I could post a picture of myself on here but I am so scared of being identified. I know that I would lose my job over my mental illness. When people hear that you are bipolar it really makes them judge you. I know it’s against the law for an employer to discriminate because of an mental illness… but that don’t have to have a reason for firing you. They can do what they want.

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    1. I’m sorry you had to deal with all of that ๐Ÿ˜ข I’m here for you. Blogging is amazing as I find writing a form of healing. Swimming also helps me and taking some anti anxiety meds when I feel really anxious. You inspire others while sharing about your struggles. You are not alone. I can understand you so well and know that I’m proud of you. I also don’t know what I’m doing in life but I tell myself it’s okay to not know and that’s okay to not be okay. I also would love that it won’t be a taboo anymore to be able to talk about it without any shame. No one has to be discriminated for it. Sending you all my love ๐Ÿ’—

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      1. Sometimes I feel foolish for blogging but other times I feel like it’s helpful. It’s nice to know that I’m not alone. All I can do is try… Life is crazy and scary. I wish I could talk about it too. Thank you for your comment

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  5. Itโ€™s amazing how someone can be in a room full of people and feel completely alone. Iโ€™ve been there many times. And Iโ€™m thankful for my little group here on the blog. Iโ€™m very thankful for a place to go to reach out and others reach back!

    I think maybe you can understand this.

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    1. Thank you so much for reading ๐Ÿ’–. Yes, I feel that too sometimes and it’s a hard feeling. The blogging community is amazing and make us feel less alone. Of course I can understand you

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      1. You really seem similar to my friend Heather Pfeifle, which you follow too. I figured you would understand.

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