Poem for International Women’s Day ♀️💪💜👭

Hey lovelies 💕,

I always need to share something on this important day: 8 March. Today it’s International Women’s Day. I find it important that we all think of how women are treated in the world. Even if you live in a developed country like I do, women are still being raped, discriminated or sexual harrast. It can happen in any country on this world. There’s still not 100% equality between women and men even though it’s better than in the past. It also depends on where you are in the world. In some countries women still aren’t able to go to school or travel alone. I see women getting murdered or raped in Spanish news often. There’s still so much to do so that we can feel save on the streets.

Last year, I was in Spain with my mother and went to the first feminist strike in Spain. It was one of the best experiences in my life. That march completely made me change the way I thought of sisterhood. I saw women being united, felt loved and soooo strong. I even made a friend which was amazing. It always feel like we have to compare with other women when it’s just so important to all support each other so that we can have equal rights. This year there’s again a feminist strike in Spain and I’m so sad I can’t be there. If you want to check that post and have an impression of that day you can go to this post

In this post I want to share a poem I made and recorded via video. I find it important to write about it. I’m a proud feminist! 💪♀️💜👭 I will forever support human rights and equality of women and men.

This is the spoken poetry video:

This is the same poem but then written:

International Women’s Day 💜

Today it’s International Women’s Day

This date is important every day not only just today

I’m a feminist by heart

Being a feminist means equal rights for women and men

It doesn’t mean that one gender has the power over one

It just means that there’s equality and freedom to be ourselves

It means to have the same human rights

Women are still discriminated, being raped and have a high rate of being murdered

What do we want?

We want to feel safe when we walk down the streets

We don’t want men catcalling us and making us feel uncomfortable

We don’t want that society always blames us for being raped because of what we were wearing or what we were doing

We want to love ourselves and feel free in our bodies

We want to be less afraid of something happening to us

We want to feel protected by the law

All we want is that society treats us with respect, understanding and love

Is that too much to ask for?

I’m sure we can all change the world, the moment we speak up about it

We’ll not be silenced anymore

Our time has come

We are not alone

We are all in this together! 💪

Together we will create a world were women and men can live in harmony, peace and love for the rest of their lives

Yes we can! ❤️💪

Thank you all for reading this blog post and for watching my video. Did you like my poem? Are you also a proud feminist? Did you ever go to a demonstration or march on International Women’s Day? Let me know in the comments. I will speak to you all in my next blog post.

Much love 💕,

xoxo Christina

Women are not your property & 200 followers 🎉

Hola sweeties 💕,

Firstly, I want to say that I’m so happy that I received a few days ago a notification on WordPress that I received 200 followers. I’m so happy that my blog is growing and growing. I hope it will continue this way. Thank you all so much for all the likes, comments and follows. I’m not blogging because of the numbers but of course it makes me happy that my blog is growing. I’m so thankful for this beautiful community. Thank you for always being there for me and supporting me. I’m looking forward for my celebration of one year of blogging in August. I love you all so much 😍😍😍

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Today I want to talk about a an important subject which is that women are not your property. This subject is based on how our society view us. I’m going to talk about this subject related to my own experience with boys and my ex boyfriend. I’m a proud feminist which means that I believe in equal rights between women and men. Some people think that being a feminist means that we hate men and that we think we’re better than them when it’s not that case. I don’t want to feel and be superior as a man. I just want to be treated equally as a man.

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Women’s bodies are always considered as an object. We are always sexualised. You can see it on social media, on television, on magazines, just everywhere you go you can see it. I’m really done with it. I remember a time that I was doing my Erasmus abroad in Spain a few years ago that I knew a group of friends. There was one boy who was always hanging out with us and was a nice boy. Then one day he said to me that he gave my mobile number to a friend of him because he liked me. I was really angry. Just because I trust you and we’re friends doesn’t mean that I want that you give my mobile number to a boy I even almost don’t know and especially whitout my consent. This boy had my number and was messaging me and said that he found me sexually attracted. I felt horrible because I don’t want my body to be sexualised and I don’t want any boy to like me just for my body. I didn’t answered this boy anymore and deleted him from my mobile phone.

I’ve felt so many times that I needed to change for a boy or please him when it isn’t good for me. Someone has to love you for who you are and for your personality. Looks will fade away as you age but your heart and mind will always stay with you. Why do women always feel like our body is their property when it isn’t? It’s the same way with catcalling. This is a behaviour of men which I hate so much. In that moment they’re acting as if we are their property. I remember so many times that I was walking or biking and a man was catcalling me. When I didn’t respond the man was laughing and calling me a dirty word. It feels like we have to respond to them. We are not their fucking property. We aren’t fucking dogs who you have to call all the time. We have the right to not respond to this behaviour. I hope this behaviour will stop one day so that women don’t feel inscure or uncomfortable walking on the streets.

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Men also don’t have the right to change women just to please him. It’s so important to not loose yourself in a relationship because at the end the most important thing is to be yourself. If someone don’t like you for who you are then it’s better to not be in relationship with this person. An example is when I had a relationship with my ex boyfriend. Once we went on a trip to Antwerp in Belgium and we went to the shop Forever 21 and we got into a quarrel. He said that every girl could walk on high heels and that I also had to walk on it. He said it would increase my self esteem and I would look like a model of Victoria Secret. Well fuck yourself, I don’t want to be or look like a model. I just want to be myself. I gave in and once in Spain he bought me high heels. I tried to walk on them so many times during parties and once also during a holiday we went with his family in Mallorca. I HATED IT. The high heels weren’t ugly at all. They were beautiful but I just hate to walk on high heels okay. I can’t walk on it, it hurts me and it doesn’t increase my self confidence. When I walked on high heels I felt more insecure and it was so uncomfortable. I told this to some boys and my friends I met after my relationship ended and they all said that it was stupid that my ex tried to change me into someone I’m not. I have to decide what’s good for me, and what I wear. It’s my body and isn’t your damn right to decide what I have to wear.

A read some articles of women who got raped and they alway point out that it’s the women’s fault. Society always blame the woman and I’m so done with it. They always point out about what the women was wearing, how late they were at the street or if they were at a party. It’s the rapist fault which in many cases is a man. Men are responsible for their actions. I also read that in many cases the rapist is their own boyfriend. They feel like when they’re in a relationship that the women is their property and can do anything with their body when it isn’t their right. The woman always have to give consent. If they aren’t okay with their behaviour and actions it isn’t okay. I have pleased so many times boys as in kissing them just because I was scared to loose him when at the end that happened. I also had times that I liked a boy and he also said he liked me and the end found out that he was kissing another girl. I felt so many times betrayed. Nowadays, I’m afraid to let someone in my life because I don’t want to have a broken heart after my ex boyfriend anymore. It hurted too much and broke my life in pieces. I will talk about this in another blog post in the future. The thing I want to say is that we aren’t your poperty. You don’t own us. You are not entitled to our bodies or our minds.

We have one body. Our body is our temple and we don’t own anyone anything. Remember, that you are never someone’s property. If you have to change yourself for your partner it isn’t worth it. It’s better to leave that relationship then to loose yourself. It’s so important to be able to be free yourself. You are a person on your own, with your values and personality. You decide what’s good for you and what’s not. Do what feels good to you. Always leave toxic relationships because at the end they will do more harm than good. We’re starting a revolution! The future is female 👭💪

I hope you all enjoyed reading this blog post. I will talk to you all in my next blog post 😊

Love you all so much 💕,

xoxo Christina

International Women’s day in Valladolid: the first feminist strike in Spain! 🌸💜💪

Hey lovelies 😍,

On the 8th of March 2018, I went to my first demonstration in Valladolid, in Spain. 8th of March was International Women’s Day. It was the first feminist strike in Spain. I will never ever forget this beautiful day. Maybe my hormones are making me feel emotional, fierece and so powerful or maybe it was my experience of this day. I will show you my experience and some awesome pictures & videos of this day. We made history in Spain!!! ❤ I went to the demonstration with my mother. I never ever went to a demonstration before. I’m always a bit anxious if they are going to be riots of group of extremists who want to hurt people. I’m happy that it was a pacific & peaceful demonstration. I know that something in me changed my way of thinking. I’m so proud of Spain. Spain had a dictator called Franco for 40 years. The transition to democracy was hard but we are going strong. Now, the first feminst strike took place like wow I’m so intense happy!!! Did you go to a feminst demonstration before? I also wanna know all your experiences.

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This picture was made in Gran Via in Madrid, in Spain. Gran Via is the main city street in Madrid. International newspapers such as BBC or CNN and television from all over the world were writing and talking about this first feminist strike in Spain.

We all were at Fuente Dorada (square in the city centre of Valladolid). It began at 19.00 in the afternoon and ended at 22.00. There were thousands women and also men. I think it’s really important that also men were walking with us because they have to support us and help us to achieve equality between both sexes. This day was about all kinds of women: black, lgbt+ community, poor, rich, workers, students, elderly…. Everybody was invited to walk with us. We were walking for like one hour. It was so damn beautiful to walk with all these beautiful women. I have never felt so united and together with women. There’s a lot of jealousy and competition between women. I dislike that so much because if we really want to achieve equality between women and men, we also should stop to compare ourselves to other women. Instead, we should empower and encourage other women. I love to be part of this blogging and mental health community where I empower and encourage women and men. If we all support each other it’s much easier to achieve equality.

On the banner you can read: “Oh girls, just wanna have have fundamental human rights“. I draw the women sign on my face with a black eyeliner hahah. You can see how many women were at the first feminist strike in Valladolid….. thousands women!

I got really emotional during this walk. I felt one with the world and with all these beautiful women. It reminds me that we are not alone. I also heard some girls talking about their first time that they felt uncomfortable with men. It’s good to know that I’m not the only who have had bad experiences with men. We are all in this together ❤ I also saw some beautiful banners that all the women made for this demonstration and walk together. I loved the one where the words were written: “Yo decido el cúando, el dónde y con quien”. This means “I decide when, where and with who.” This banner was made by many women in whole Spain for the first feminist strike. This sentence is from the song Lo Malo which I heard during the talentshow Operación Triunfo on Spanish television. Aitana & Ana were singing this song. I’m going to the concert of Operacion Triunfo this friday and I can’t wait to hear this song and many other songs live in concert with my friend Maria.

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These words means: “No is no, if you want flexibility go to yoga

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These words mean: “I don’t want your compliment, I want respect

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From the left to the right. On the first banner these words means: “You are more beautiful when you are free and not silenced.” On the second banner you can read the words: “I hate crowdy places but I had sexism much more.” On the third banner you can read the words: “There is no liberty without women who don’t are in a revolution.” On the last banner you can read the words: “I decide when, where and with who.”

I also talked a lot with all the women who were at the demonstration. My mother and I talked to some elderly who were so kind and lovely to us. One of them explained that this demonstration is really important. She said that she earned less than men and that this has to change. She also said that me and my mother were beautiful and that she hopes our lives are going well. I got really tears in my eyes… It means so much that complete strangers say these kind of things to me and my mother. I love that so much. There have to be more people like these women we met. It’s so important to say beautiful words to strangers and remind them how beautiful they are. You never know what kinds of battles or storms people are going through. Some kind words can definitely change your day and perspective of life.

I also met a lovely girl called Ines. She was from Catalonia. I shared some blog posts last year about the political situation of Catalonia. They want to be indepented from Spain. They had an election in December but the problem is still not solved because right now there’s no government. In Spain, all regions are autonomous which means that they have their own government, their own police and health care. Every region in Spain is different. I loved talking to Ines and understand her point of view. She said that this problem is not solved because during the time that Franco was a dictator for Spain for 40 years they had no rights. They couldn’t talk catalan, their own language and many things were forbidden. I also met a girl from Navarra, another region in Spain. Spain is beautiful because of all the different nationalities, regions and languages. I’m so proud to be Dutch and Spanish and be part of this beautiful culture ❤

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The girl is called Ines which I met during the demonstration in Valladolid ❤

During this walk, we were all walking together to a square near to the cathedral of Valladolid. At that square some women were talking and giving speeches. It really made me feel so inspired. My mother asked for some stickers. I got some beautiful stickers to remind myself forever of this beautiful day. I already decorated my room with them. The march ended with a beautiful fire yeahhh ❤ 🔥

They wrote “feminst strike” on the windows of the shops. This was written on the windows of the shop Zara. On the right you can see the cute stickers which I got ❤ On the first sticker you can read the words: “Without women, the world will stop.” On the other sticker you can read the words: “I also support the strike.”

I got really emotional to see all these beautiful women walking together. We are women and we have to be proud of it. Together we are going to change the world! ❤ The first feminist strike in Spain was a success. There were millions of women walking together during this demonstration in whole Spain. I feel so inspired and powerful since this day. I feel like we are going to change this world and it’s so good to know that we are never alone. We are all united. Together we are strong. We made history with the feminst strike in Spain!!!! We are in a revolution! 💪This is is just the beginning of something really great. I believe in the good things coming. Never forget that we are all in this together. The future is female, girl power! 💜

I hope you all liked this blog post. As you know by now I’m a feminist by heart. What do you think of this demonstration? Are you also a feminist? I hope we are going to change this world together because YES WE CAN!!!! ❤

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Love you all so much 💞,

xoxo Christina

Happy International Women’s day 🌹🌼💜💕

Hey lovely community 😍,

Today I’m going to write about a really important subject which is International Women’s day. Happy International Women’s day 🌹💕 I edited this picture for you all. I want to write you all a good blog post with also facts and numbers from reliable sources. I hope you are all going to like it. All women have the right to celebrate this day and go to demonstrations on the streets. I’m going tonight to a demonstration in Valladolid, in Spain in the afternoon. I think it’s really important that we are there to speak up. If we never speak up about difficult issues nothing is going to change. Are you also going to a demonstration today? Are you also going to celebrate this special day? Let me know in the comment section. I would love to hear about it ❤

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Women are still considered as weak and men as strong human beings. I’ve always felt less than men. It’s hard to be a women in this world. I still feel intimitaded by men. I’ve always felt like I should make them happy. I know that not all men are bad. Women and men are still not equal. Women’s bodies are still being sexualised and viewed as a object. I have experienced so many times that I got catcalled on the streets, calling me a slut or touching my butt when I was dancing. You have no fucking right to touch it without my permission. I dislike this behaviour so much. I can’t fucking stand it. I also can’t stand that when women are raped they are saying it’s the women’s fault. It’s never your fault. Men are responsible for their fucking actions. We need to educate men to not rape women. Sorry for my swearing. It just makes me so angry. Also one time one boy even said once I was partying that I looked like I wanted to fuck with him.

I guess many women share such kind of stories. I’m not the only one who have shared me too stories. There are so many women on this earth who has experienced sexual harrasment or assault. “On average, 30 percent of women who have been in a relationship report that they have experienced some form of physical or sexual violence by their partner. The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence offers volunteer opportunities, and you can support them at their events by checking their calendar here.” (Source: Makers) Of course, men also experience this but facts shows us that the mayority who experience this are women.

index.pngThis isn’t the only problem we have. We still earn less money than men. No matter how hard we work, we will not be able to gain as much as a man. In undeveloped countries, women can’t get education and many of this women are forced to marry someone. This is called child chird marriage. “Every year, an estimated 15 million girls under 18 are married worldwide, with little or no say in the matter. Girls Not Brides studies the problem and is working to find workable solutions. They know that education and empowerment for girls are the first steps. You can help by sharing the facts or

This isn’t the only problem we have. We still earn less money than men. No matter how hard we work, we will not be able to gain as much as a man. In undeveloped countries, women can’t get education and many of this women are forced to marry someone. This is called child chird marriage. “Every year, an estimated 15 million girls under 18 are married worldwide, with little or no say in the matter. Girls Not Brides studies the problem and is working to find workable solutions. They know that education and empowerment for girls are the first steps. You can help by sharing the facts or This isn’t the only problem we have. We still earn less money than men. No matter how hard we work, we will not be able to gain as much as a man. In undeveloped countries, women can’t get education and many of this women are forced to marry someone. This is called child chird marriage. “Every year, an estimated 15 million girls under 18 are married worldwide, with little or no say in the matter. Girls Not Brides studies the problem and is working to find workable solutions. They know that education and empowerment for girls are the first steps. You can help by sharing the facts or donating to projects making a difference.” (source: Makers) I once saw a documentary about this and I just couldn’t stop crying. It’s just the worst thing ever. This really need to change. Facts also show us that the most highest positions in the labour market are men.

I also want to praise all the mom in this world. Being a mom is a full time job. Nobody should take that for granted. Women have to suffer with their period, get pregnant and have to raise their children. Besides, we also have to all our household stuff in home and work at the same time. Women are not being appreciated enough for all what they are doing. Of course, men are also raising their children but I still feel more connected to my mother. I think it’s because of the mother instinct and being for 9 months in your mother womb. I’ve always seen pregnancy a little bit of scarry. I have so many problems with my period and so much pain, that I’m thinking that if I ever get pregnant it will be so painful. Hopefully, I’m lucky and everything will go smoothly. I think it’s just so beautiful to bring children on this earth.

I’m a feminist and the meaning of this is that you believe in equal rights of women and men. I don’t believe women have to be better than men. That’s not what it’s all about. I don’t like that some people think we are hating on men. I don’t hate men. I just dislike some behavious and the fact that we are not equal in this society. Feminism shares a common goal which is to define, establish, and achieve political, economic, personal and social equality of sex. That’s the real difinition which I found on the internet.

I know a lot of improvement is made in women right’s like to able to vote and to work. Right now, we have the me too campaign and time’s up. These are all proyects to create equal rights between men and women. There are still so many things that have to change but together we are going strong 💪 I’m thankful that I live in a developed country. My heart and praying goes to all the women who are suffering in this world especially in undeveloped countries. Many women doesn’t have the right to marry who to they want or to go to school in these countries. It’s really sad. “62 million girls are denied an education all over the world. #UpForSchool wants to change that. You can sign their petition here.” (source: Makers) There’s still so much work to do especially in these undeveloped countries.

Let’s raise boys and girls the same way. Let’s boy educate that the body of a women is not an object. Let’s educate them that every women decide their choices. Let women know that they have to be proud for who they. Let women know that they can live their lives according to their values and beliefs without any fear. Let’s all unite together and stay strong. I love you all my warriors ❤ Together we can change the world 🌍💪💞

Here’s to strong women.
May we know them.
May we be them.
May we raise them.

The future is female 😍💙💚❤️💛💜🌸🌹 Amen ❤

Much love,

xoxo Christina