Stop making a taboo about having periods

Hey lovelies 💕,

I just had to write this blog post because I feel bad these days because of my upcoming period. I find it important to raise awareness about having our periods. I’m going to talk about period pain and periods in general. I already talked about it one day. I don’t understand why we don’t talk more about it and why it’s still considered a taboo when it’s something natural. I think we have to talk more about it so that women don’t feel alone while suffering each month from heavy pain, blood, mood swings and everything which comes with having our periods. Men often say that women get crazy when their period is coming well we aren’t crazy, our hormones are making us feel that way. It’s not something we choose for. I find it always so disgusting when people say that we like to be completely mad. If they would suffer from it, they wouldn’t say that because then they would know how it feels. You never know what’s someone is going through until you feel those feelings and those experiences by yourself.

So, Saturday night I experienced so much pain that I thought OMG I will die. I was sitting on the floor covering my tummy. My body was IN SO MUCH PAIN. I cried so much. I know almost certain that it has to do with my period coming and pms. It isn’t normal though. I have always had painful and heavy periods. I know I’m not the only woman suffering through this 😭. It’s so hard. The strange thing is that I never felt it that way and I still don’t have my period. I think it’s pms because for the rest I’m not sick or anything. I also feel angry and emotional. I also feel way more anxious before my period. I also have read that it’s because of our hormones. They make us feel like crazy. I always have mood swings before period and I’m so hungry. I just ate a pizza 🍕 last night haha. I craved it so badly 😂😋.

There’s still a taboo talking about it. I know some men don’t like to hear it and find it gross. I remember one time I was on my period during high school and I always bleed so much. I knew my jeans were a bit red 😭. I wanted to go to the toilet but they didn’t let me. I didn’t say I had my period. I found it so uncomfortable. I also have heard of men who are super supportive and that makes me so happy. The friends I have in my life who are men are very supportive and care about me. That’s the direction we have to go. Well, it’s the most natural thing ever of being a women which has to be respected. Maybe if women had more information and resources, pain and other issues surrounding our moon would be more manageable. We can’t fix a problem when we can’t talk about it. Talking about it helps to raise awareness and will make us come to a solution all together. I also agree that women have to get more benefits surrounding their periods like free days at work and that pads, tampons and every other product for our periods doesn’t cost anything anymore. We don’t ask for it. Condoms are often given for free but we have to buy these products which also cost so much money. It is definitely not fair at all.

Years ago, women had their period always in sync with the full moon 🌜. That’s why they also call it our moon. It goes in sync with how we feel too. Before our period we may feel more emotional, heavy, sad, angry or just feel that something is off. That means the end of something. When our period begins we begin a new life, a new cycle. Maybe my period is coming on the full moon this Thursday. When I read this somewhere on the internet I felt in awe 🌝. The full moon has definitely an effect on us. I sleep worse the night before and feel more emotional. It’s so beautiful to think we can bring a life into this world. We women are magical creatures of the universe ✨💞 and have to embrace this with our whole heart. The thought of one day getting a baby is beautiful but at the same time it overwhelms me. I don’t know how to take sometimes good care of myself. How would I be able to take care of a child? Also, I’m afraid of getting pregnant and giving birth. I already feel so bad with having my period every month. How would I survive giving birth? I don’t think I’m the only thinking this. I also find it good that women don’t have to have children because it’s their choice like to do abortion too. Every women has the right to decide what to do with their bodies.

I think I will have to check this problem soon because what I felt last weekend was the worst 😢. I’m always anxious about going to the doctor so I don’t go only when I really have to. It gets worse every month. I hope I don’t have anything serious or like endometriose. I know many of my friends also suffer this way and some women don’t feel much. They are definitely the lucky ones. I wish my life was pain free, oh how a different world would that be. Sometimes I wouldn’t be able to walk because of so much cramps. I’m happy I have Aleve meds which is Naproxen and helps very well. Otherwise I wouldn’t be able to cope at all. I just don’t know if I would like to take birth control because I also read some bad stories with side effects. I don’t know if that would be good for my mental health. I just don’t really know what is good or bad for my body.

I just really think we have to talk more about our periods without any shame. It’s 2020 and it’s about time to stop hiding our feelings or thoughts on important topics such as this one in the world. Only then we can come to a solution and feel less alone in our struggles. I’m so happy my mamita is always there to comfort me. Also, my daddy understands me because he sees me suffering every damn month 😢. I wish everyone has a person that is there for them. No one has to deal with hard stuff in life alone. No women has to go through this alone every time of the month. I hope you have friends, family and other loved ones who are there for you when you feel bad during that time of the month. You deserve that love and compassion so much. Your feelings are valid. You are not alone 💞🌈🙏. You are loved. I love you all.

Thank you all for reading this important blog post. I found it important to talk about this subject. How are your periods? Do you take meds or birth control? What are some tips to ease the pain? I’m always here for you. Let me know lovelies. I will speak to you all in my next blog post.

Much love 💕,

xoxo Christina

Women are not your property & 200 followers 🎉

Hola sweeties 💕,

Firstly, I want to say that I’m so happy that I received a few days ago a notification on WordPress that I received 200 followers. I’m so happy that my blog is growing and growing. I hope it will continue this way. Thank you all so much for all the likes, comments and follows. I’m not blogging because of the numbers but of course it makes me happy that my blog is growing. I’m so thankful for this beautiful community. Thank you for always being there for me and supporting me. I’m looking forward for my celebration of one year of blogging in August. I love you all so much 😍😍😍

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Today I want to talk about a an important subject which is that women are not your property. This subject is based on how our society view us. I’m going to talk about this subject related to my own experience with boys and my ex boyfriend. I’m a proud feminist which means that I believe in equal rights between women and men. Some people think that being a feminist means that we hate men and that we think we’re better than them when it’s not that case. I don’t want to feel and be superior as a man. I just want to be treated equally as a man.

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Women’s bodies are always considered as an object. We are always sexualised. You can see it on social media, on television, on magazines, just everywhere you go you can see it. I’m really done with it. I remember a time that I was doing my Erasmus abroad in Spain a few years ago that I knew a group of friends. There was one boy who was always hanging out with us and was a nice boy. Then one day he said to me that he gave my mobile number to a friend of him because he liked me. I was really angry. Just because I trust you and we’re friends doesn’t mean that I want that you give my mobile number to a boy I even almost don’t know and especially whitout my consent. This boy had my number and was messaging me and said that he found me sexually attracted. I felt horrible because I don’t want my body to be sexualised and I don’t want any boy to like me just for my body. I didn’t answered this boy anymore and deleted him from my mobile phone.

I’ve felt so many times that I needed to change for a boy or please him when it isn’t good for me. Someone has to love you for who you are and for your personality. Looks will fade away as you age but your heart and mind will always stay with you. Why do women always feel like our body is their property when it isn’t? It’s the same way with catcalling. This is a behaviour of men which I hate so much. In that moment they’re acting as if we are their property. I remember so many times that I was walking or biking and a man was catcalling me. When I didn’t respond the man was laughing and calling me a dirty word. It feels like we have to respond to them. We are not their fucking property. We aren’t fucking dogs who you have to call all the time. We have the right to not respond to this behaviour. I hope this behaviour will stop one day so that women don’t feel inscure or uncomfortable walking on the streets.

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Men also don’t have the right to change women just to please him. It’s so important to not loose yourself in a relationship because at the end the most important thing is to be yourself. If someone don’t like you for who you are then it’s better to not be in relationship with this person. An example is when I had a relationship with my ex boyfriend. Once we went on a trip to Antwerp in Belgium and we went to the shop Forever 21 and we got into a quarrel. He said that every girl could walk on high heels and that I also had to walk on it. He said it would increase my self esteem and I would look like a model of Victoria Secret. Well fuck yourself, I don’t want to be or look like a model. I just want to be myself. I gave in and once in Spain he bought me high heels. I tried to walk on them so many times during parties and once also during a holiday we went with his family in Mallorca. I HATED IT. The high heels weren’t ugly at all. They were beautiful but I just hate to walk on high heels okay. I can’t walk on it, it hurts me and it doesn’t increase my self confidence. When I walked on high heels I felt more insecure and it was so uncomfortable. I told this to some boys and my friends I met after my relationship ended and they all said that it was stupid that my ex tried to change me into someone I’m not. I have to decide what’s good for me, and what I wear. It’s my body and isn’t your damn right to decide what I have to wear.

A read some articles of women who got raped and they alway point out that it’s the women’s fault. Society always blame the woman and I’m so done with it. They always point out about what the women was wearing, how late they were at the street or if they were at a party. It’s the rapist fault which in many cases is a man. Men are responsible for their actions. I also read that in many cases the rapist is their own boyfriend. They feel like when they’re in a relationship that the women is their property and can do anything with their body when it isn’t their right. The woman always have to give consent. If they aren’t okay with their behaviour and actions it isn’t okay. I have pleased so many times boys as in kissing them just because I was scared to loose him when at the end that happened. I also had times that I liked a boy and he also said he liked me and the end found out that he was kissing another girl. I felt so many times betrayed. Nowadays, I’m afraid to let someone in my life because I don’t want to have a broken heart after my ex boyfriend anymore. It hurted too much and broke my life in pieces. I will talk about this in another blog post in the future. The thing I want to say is that we aren’t your poperty. You don’t own us. You are not entitled to our bodies or our minds.

We have one body. Our body is our temple and we don’t own anyone anything. Remember, that you are never someone’s property. If you have to change yourself for your partner it isn’t worth it. It’s better to leave that relationship then to loose yourself. It’s so important to be able to be free yourself. You are a person on your own, with your values and personality. You decide what’s good for you and what’s not. Do what feels good to you. Always leave toxic relationships because at the end they will do more harm than good. We’re starting a revolution! The future is female 👭💪

I hope you all enjoyed reading this blog post. I will talk to you all in my next blog post 😊

Love you all so much 💕,

xoxo Christina

Happy International Women’s day 🌹🌼💜💕

Hey lovely community 😍,

Today I’m going to write about a really important subject which is International Women’s day. Happy International Women’s day 🌹💕 I edited this picture for you all. I want to write you all a good blog post with also facts and numbers from reliable sources. I hope you are all going to like it. All women have the right to celebrate this day and go to demonstrations on the streets. I’m going tonight to a demonstration in Valladolid, in Spain in the afternoon. I think it’s really important that we are there to speak up. If we never speak up about difficult issues nothing is going to change. Are you also going to a demonstration today? Are you also going to celebrate this special day? Let me know in the comment section. I would love to hear about it ❤

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Women are still considered as weak and men as strong human beings. I’ve always felt less than men. It’s hard to be a women in this world. I still feel intimitaded by men. I’ve always felt like I should make them happy. I know that not all men are bad. Women and men are still not equal. Women’s bodies are still being sexualised and viewed as a object. I have experienced so many times that I got catcalled on the streets, calling me a slut or touching my butt when I was dancing. You have no fucking right to touch it without my permission. I dislike this behaviour so much. I can’t fucking stand it. I also can’t stand that when women are raped they are saying it’s the women’s fault. It’s never your fault. Men are responsible for their fucking actions. We need to educate men to not rape women. Sorry for my swearing. It just makes me so angry. Also one time one boy even said once I was partying that I looked like I wanted to fuck with him.

I guess many women share such kind of stories. I’m not the only one who have shared me too stories. There are so many women on this earth who has experienced sexual harrasment or assault. “On average, 30 percent of women who have been in a relationship report that they have experienced some form of physical or sexual violence by their partner. The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence offers volunteer opportunities, and you can support them at their events by checking their calendar here.” (Source: Makers) Of course, men also experience this but facts shows us that the mayority who experience this are women.

index.pngThis isn’t the only problem we have. We still earn less money than men. No matter how hard we work, we will not be able to gain as much as a man. In undeveloped countries, women can’t get education and many of this women are forced to marry someone. This is called child chird marriage. “Every year, an estimated 15 million girls under 18 are married worldwide, with little or no say in the matter. Girls Not Brides studies the problem and is working to find workable solutions. They know that education and empowerment for girls are the first steps. You can help by sharing the facts or

This isn’t the only problem we have. We still earn less money than men. No matter how hard we work, we will not be able to gain as much as a man. In undeveloped countries, women can’t get education and many of this women are forced to marry someone. This is called child chird marriage. “Every year, an estimated 15 million girls under 18 are married worldwide, with little or no say in the matter. Girls Not Brides studies the problem and is working to find workable solutions. They know that education and empowerment for girls are the first steps. You can help by sharing the facts or This isn’t the only problem we have. We still earn less money than men. No matter how hard we work, we will not be able to gain as much as a man. In undeveloped countries, women can’t get education and many of this women are forced to marry someone. This is called child chird marriage. “Every year, an estimated 15 million girls under 18 are married worldwide, with little or no say in the matter. Girls Not Brides studies the problem and is working to find workable solutions. They know that education and empowerment for girls are the first steps. You can help by sharing the facts or donating to projects making a difference.” (source: Makers) I once saw a documentary about this and I just couldn’t stop crying. It’s just the worst thing ever. This really need to change. Facts also show us that the most highest positions in the labour market are men.

I also want to praise all the mom in this world. Being a mom is a full time job. Nobody should take that for granted. Women have to suffer with their period, get pregnant and have to raise their children. Besides, we also have to all our household stuff in home and work at the same time. Women are not being appreciated enough for all what they are doing. Of course, men are also raising their children but I still feel more connected to my mother. I think it’s because of the mother instinct and being for 9 months in your mother womb. I’ve always seen pregnancy a little bit of scarry. I have so many problems with my period and so much pain, that I’m thinking that if I ever get pregnant it will be so painful. Hopefully, I’m lucky and everything will go smoothly. I think it’s just so beautiful to bring children on this earth.

I’m a feminist and the meaning of this is that you believe in equal rights of women and men. I don’t believe women have to be better than men. That’s not what it’s all about. I don’t like that some people think we are hating on men. I don’t hate men. I just dislike some behavious and the fact that we are not equal in this society. Feminism shares a common goal which is to define, establish, and achieve political, economic, personal and social equality of sex. That’s the real difinition which I found on the internet.

I know a lot of improvement is made in women right’s like to able to vote and to work. Right now, we have the me too campaign and time’s up. These are all proyects to create equal rights between men and women. There are still so many things that have to change but together we are going strong 💪 I’m thankful that I live in a developed country. My heart and praying goes to all the women who are suffering in this world especially in undeveloped countries. Many women doesn’t have the right to marry who to they want or to go to school in these countries. It’s really sad. “62 million girls are denied an education all over the world. #UpForSchool wants to change that. You can sign their petition here.” (source: Makers) There’s still so much work to do especially in these undeveloped countries.

Let’s raise boys and girls the same way. Let’s boy educate that the body of a women is not an object. Let’s educate them that every women decide their choices. Let women know that they have to be proud for who they. Let women know that they can live their lives according to their values and beliefs without any fear. Let’s all unite together and stay strong. I love you all my warriors ❤ Together we can change the world 🌍💪💞

Here’s to strong women.
May we know them.
May we be them.
May we raise them.

The future is female 😍💙💚❤️💛💜🌸🌹 Amen ❤

Much love,

xoxo Christina

Stop the taboo of having periods 💭

Hey lovelies 💕,

Today I wanna talk about women having periods. I write about how it’s still a taboo. Women shouldn’t feel ashamed when they have their period.

This is something which really makes me so angry in this world. Women are bleeding every month. I’m almost on my period and every time before my period I have PMS. This means that I’m even more anxious and have mood swings. I’m also more emotional and nauseous. This is really fucked up.

Why do we still act like talking about periods is a taboo? I remembered times were I felt ashamed of it. I remembered a time were I was in high school. One day we had a gym class. One girl was acting angry at the gym teacher. Then he said: “You must be on your period, right?” Like what the fucking hell are you talking about. If a woman is angry she is on her period?! Women have the right to express their feelings and thoughts. That doesn’t mean they are having their period. 

If only men experience what we experience every single fucking month to wouldn’t say anything anymore. Your hormones are changing, you just don’t feel like yourself anymore, you are bleeding, you have cramps and so much pain and just feel so bad…. that’s what it’s every single month. For some women it isn’t that hard but for me it’s. I’m happy I take Aleve Feminax which is a Dutch medicine and helps me sooooo much. If I don’t take it I can’t cope with my life because I’m in too much pain. 

Why are men still embarrased when we talk about this? Why do they act like it’s disgusting? Why do they make fun of us when we are having mood swings because of PMS? It is the most natural function of a womb. Once this was their home too and now they are ashamed of it. I just can’t seem to understand this. Women can get pregnant and can get babies. This is a beautiful thought which also scares me because there is also pain and struggles involved. To think of having a child one day is a beautiful thought.

I only want to have a relationship with a man who respects me and don’t feel ashamed of talking about periods. I know there are many out there who can actually talk about it and help women during this time. Thank you for being there. You make this world a better place 💕💫

Much love ♡,

xoxo